Not everyone understands what the work of a psychologist is, so when it comes to visiting a specialist, many people sincerely wonder what it is for. And where there is a lack of understanding, there are also questions. Here are only the most common of them.
Why should we turn to someone else, because it’s easier to be honest with your loved ones?
Unfortunately, this is not always the case. All of us strive to look good in the eyes of people we care about, that’s why we sometimes talk honestly with our fellow travelers than with our best friends.
There is no need to impress a psychologist at all. That’s why the office of a specialist creates a “safe space”, where you can afford to be angry or cry, without worrying about how it looks from the outside.
Why would I go to a psychologist? I’m not crazy!
Psychologists do not consult psycho. Psychotherapy can be applied to personality disorders, but only in conjunction with the work of a psychiatrist. If during the first visits it becomes clear that the client has a mental illness and really needs medical help, the psychologist will refer him or her to the right specialist. Believe me, this will not be the phrase: “Go to a mental health clinic and get prescribe stronger pills.” A good specialist usually has contacts with the right doctors, so the psychologist will advise you who to contact in your situation.
So I’ll be lying on the couch for five years to realize that my refusal to get married is due to my mom not buying me a toy car as a kid?
First of all, they only lie on the couch during psychoanalysis sessions. In addition to this method, there are many other areas of psychotherapy.
Secondly, visits to the psychologist are not always extended for many years. There are many types of short-term therapy.
In addition, there is a difference between psychological counseling and psychotherapy. Simply put, counselling is aimed at treating specific symptoms and therapy can change the client’s personality. Counselling can be followed by therapy, but whether this is the case depends on your wishes.
A psychologist will give me advice, but what if it doesn’t help?
The first and most important thing: a competent psychologist does not give advice. Together with the client he investigates the problem, helps to trace emotions and patterns of behavior in this or that situation, helps to change the perspective of the vision of the problem, and find resources to solve it.
The second and no less important thing. When you tell a friend about your problems, you risk hearing about them: “Oh, I had that too…” Then your friend will be completely immersed in his or her memories, forgetting about you. This will not happen to a psychologist. It only seems that the specialist just sits there and listens, but does nothing. In fact, he works every minute of his time and closely monitors not only what the client says, but also the course of his associations, changes in speech, facial expressions.
And finally, the third one. A psychologist can be openly hated. You can work with this feeling and even get benefit from it. But to say to a friend: “You advised me, it’s all your fault,” and to be angry at him is not the best way to strengthen the relationship.
The task of the psychologist is not to drag the client to happiness, but to give an opportunity to see another perspective of the problem, to find resources for change. When the client has more choice and freedom, the work of a psychologist ends.