From work – to divorce
We are already used to it and accept that in the big cities the way to and from work takes an average of 2.5 hours per day. But family happiness and prosperity depend on its duration!
The Swedish scientists (a group of employees of the Sociology Department of Umea Universiti) arrived at such a conclusion. After collecting and analyzing statistical data from 2005 to 2010 by two million (!) Swedish families, they received an unexpected result. In families where one spouse gets to work longer than 45 minutes, is 1.6 times higher risk of the betrayals and divorces. And most of them occur during the first few years of marriage.
This is the period of the establishment of relations, – Liam Olofsson, Professor Umea Universiti, explains. – In place of the rainbow euphoria, “unearthly” tough love come monotonous routine filled the job. And if at least one of the young couple spends on the way to work for more than 45 minutes one way, there is a chance that he will come home tired.
And tired not only from work but on the way there and back. And no matter how he does this way – in public transport or driving. After all, sometimes riding in traffic exhausts more than shaking in the subway! Anyway, to the work fatigue adds road stress.
And as a result we have the following picture: a spouse at home, begins to do household chores, and an hour later comes squeezed like a lemon. She collapses on the couch with one desire – to get some rest. No help from your beloved in the home: take out the trash, cook dinner, load the washing machine. And no recoil in the bed: all sex joys tolerated at best for the weekend. This situation creates a fertile ground for family conflict. A spouse, carrying the impact of domestic problems will inevitably regard another as selfish and it doesn’t matter how strong love was between them. And here is a big chance that a spouse who needs more sex will find a lover.
Professor Olofsson’s tips
Paradoxical. A spouse who works closer looks for work out to be about an equal footing with the other spouse. According to the Swedish social scientists, it will eliminate the cause of the conflict.
A spouse who works closer looks for work about an equal footing with the other spouse. According to the Swedish social scientists, it will eliminate the cause of the conflict.
It should be noted, however, that some of the Swedish spouses’ paradoxical way of a problem seemed doubtful. And in their thinking, they went the other way: “Is not it easier to change a spouse?”