The modern world is a rather aggressive environment. Not all people are equally adapted to the conditions dictated by their lives. How to find the cause of phobias and neurosis and cope with them?
The feeling of anxiety and danger is not always a pathology. Everyone at least once experienced nervous excitement and anxiety in a situation when they could not cope with the problem that had arisen or in anticipation of a difficult conversation. After resolving the situation, anxiety, as a rule, disappears. But there are unreasonable fears. They arise as if by themselves. At such moments, the person feels helpless, emotionally and physically exhausted.
From the point of view of psychology, fear, anxiety, and any other feeling cannot be bad or good. They are needed by the body as signaling devices, prompts of some kind of trouble or danger. Without these feelings, we would probably not have survived. But if feelings are not connected with events of reality, but only with our thoughts, fantasies, when we intimidate ourselves with imaginary dangers or worry about a situation that objectively cannot harm us, then we can talk about a certain psychological illness, and sometimes psychopathology. States of gratuitous fear, great anxiety, or panic are commonly called phobias. They are not an independent disease. They are only a symptom of someone with serious psychological distress. And their great variety.
For people whose condition is neglected and lasts for months or even years, and for people with special organization of the personality structure, this is fully justified and vital. But treating a state of anxiety and fear in mentally healthy people with drugs alone is not always justified. This may be a struggle with symptoms, not causes. You do not want to sit on antidepressants for life? There is such a joke: it’s better to cry in a psychologist’s office than to laugh at a psychiatrist’s appointment. With the identification and elimination of psychological causes, symptoms often go away.
If, for example, you always postpone an important conversation for you in reality, habitually suppress emotions, then you can say you are committing a crime against yourself. And your body can take revenge on you. For example, psychosomatic disorder or phobia.
Sometimes phobias can be the result of a broken relationship with a loved one or with yourself – with your feelings and desires. For example, a client suffering from cancer (phobia of oncology) got rid of her when she realized her fear and feelings of guilt before her mother. Another client could not fly in airplanes and go to the balcony. Outwardly in life, everything seems to be good. The house is a full bowl, the husband is a handsome man and a breadwinner, fully provides, the mother likes, the friends envy. In fact, she herself was afraid to admit and ousted from the consciousness that she does not love her husband and did not love her, and perceives her marriage as a tragic mistake. When it came to the realization that she did not live her life, and she decided to divorce, the fear of heights disappeared in an amazing way. There are thousands of such examples.
Be able to enjoy and enjoy what you have, and not suffer from what you don’t. Enjoy today and do not postpone life for later. Learn to be honest with yourself.